Magic and girlfriend?

Fin · 01-26-2012, 12:51 AM

I can see this from a few perspectives. You should be careful not to overload your friends, family and girlfriends with your magic. They will become sick of it very quickly. However in this case it sounds like your girlfriend is being a little unfair. It sounds like when you performed for her friends she got embarrassed. This is something she must get over, as it is indeed HER problem, not yours. If I had the same problem I would possibly approach it like this:

I'd ask her what her problem is with supporting me in the thing I love doing. I would frame magic differently for her.. I would say "What if I was a famous artist, or musician, or comedian. Which would you prefer?". Then ask her what SHE thinks is so different between those "respected" arts, and MAGIC? For it is purely HER perspective which is at fault here. Magic is as worthy of your time as ANY OTHER ART. If she cannot see that and hence treats you like some sort of a loser with a crap hobby then she needs to get educated on what magic really is.

Some people are closed-minded; unfortunately this can also include the people we love. The best you can do for them is try to educate them and give them the tools to see things in the same light you do. Whether they choose to follow your lead or not is up to them.

01-26-2012, 12:51 AM	#1
Fin Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 530	I can see this from a few perspectives. You should be careful not to overload your friends, family and girlfriends with your magic. They will become sick of it very quickly. However in this case it sounds like your girlfriend is being a little unfair. It sounds like when you performed for her friends she got embarrassed. This is something she must get over, as it is indeed HER problem, not yours. If I had the same problem I would possibly approach it like this: I'd ask her what her problem is with supporting me in the thing I love doing. I would frame magic differently for her.. I would say "What if I was a famous artist, or musician, or comedian. Which would you prefer?". Then ask her what SHE thinks is so different between those "respected" arts, and MAGIC? For it is purely HER perspective which is at fault here. Magic is as worthy of your time as ANY OTHER ART. If she cannot see that and hence treats you like some sort of a loser with a crap hobby then she needs to get educated on what magic really is. Some people are closed-minded; unfortunately this can also include the people we love. The best you can do for them is try to educate them and give them the tools to see things in the same light you do. Whether they choose to follow your lead or not is up to them.